Lack of funnies warning *UPDATE*
For those who read my heartfelt tale of ruined love on off topic page 153 (and those who are interested), here's the latest.

It's been the hardest 6 weeks of my life. I tried my absolute best to win her back and it didn't work. I was truly heartbroken.

Until a couple of my friends drove past her car late at night, where she was spotted having a big argument with some guy from the pub where she works occasionally.

'Hmmmm' I thought - this explains a lot. So I confronted her and it turns out that she is just 'seeing' him, she's lost the vast majority of her friends (who she knows because they're my friends) and she's latched onto this group of middle aged divorced alcoholics, gays and perverts in the pub.

She said that she really isn't over me, and knocking around with this guy (in a non-relationship/non-sex way)is an attempt to clear her head of me and give her some breathing space.
She said there was nothing there, until I learnt the other day that she's been fucking this guy pretty much since a few days after she finished with me. Not something I would have expected from her, as I thought know her well. Gossip I know, also coming from a friend who she has cut off horribly as well in the past few weeks. So perhaps there's reason from her friend to stir things? Or perhaps she's just bragging to her mates about shagging this guy to boost herself somehow?

To any lady B3tans out there, is this normal? Or is she just a complete old gash bag?

There's a lot more going on in the background, muddying the waters of why we actually broke up in the first place.

She says that she never has and never would cheat on me while were together. I believe her on that, but I'm starting to think that she is just a plain liar and nothing that has come out of her mouth in the last 5 years is reliable. She has changed rapidly for the worse in the last 2 months into someone who I would have never loved in the first place. So I guess I'm grieving for the person she used to be.

I want to hate her, but I can't. I still love her even after all of this. 5 years is a long time, and on reflection, she was a better girlfriend to me than I was boyfriend to her for a long time towards the end, and she did try so hard to save us, efforts which I never reciprocated.

I'm still hollow and numb and missing her, 6 weeks later, although much better than I was to start with.

So, if I can't bring myself to hate her, I thought of all of you and I have yet to decide whether or not to advertise her mobile number, email address, home number, whatever you like if you fancy dropping her some pictures of spunking cocks or just to take the piss....hehehe
(Sir General ***WoW***, Sat 4 Jul 2009, 12:11, 10 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

I'll gaz you
but for now, what do you have to gain from posting her personal contact details on here? You split up for a reason, now it's time to move on.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Sat 4 Jul 2009, 12:16, Reply)

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"So, if I can't bring myself to hate her, I thought of all of you and I have yet to decide whether or not to advertise her mobile number, email address, home number, whatever you like if you fancy dropping her some pictures of spunking cocks or just to take the piss....hehehe"

I'd strongly advise against this. It somehow still brings the two of you together - albeit in a negative kind of way. It's best to just stay apart. Just try and find some things to do or new people to meet to keep your mind occupied.

In the meantime, try and keep her out your mind. Ask your friends not to talk about her.

Oh, and * hugs *
( mistaspakkaman and the inedible shifting caterpillars, Sat 4 Jul 2009, 12:24, Reply)

...
I've gazzed you
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Sat 4 Jul 2009, 12:39, Reply)

If anyone posted my personal details, I'd kill them.
I'm skittish even about my real name coming out.

I'm really sorry to hear that you'd broken up. And of course it's going to hurt, but please stay strong. It's good you've realised she's no longer the person in the picture in your mind, but you're not the whole way there yet :)

I'm shit at advice. Just stay strong and be supported by us lovely people, and the people more adept at giving advice ^_^
( Lampito rise with the moon, go to bed with the sun, Sat 4 Jul 2009, 12:41, Reply)

^^
Her name is Mary Hinge
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Sat 4 Jul 2009, 13:09, Reply)

Yep. Sounds strangely familiar.
It sounds like she's keeping her options open, maybe she wants the possibility that you'd be there if her current shag deserts her, and that she can get you back, or maybe she just likes the idea of more than one bloke showing interest in her. I understand the idea that you're greiving over the idea you had of her before all the shit hit the fan as well.

In all honesty, and speaking from some experiance, the best thing to do is just break off all contact with her, oh, and feel free to keep her contact details written down at home somewhere, but make damn sure that you delete them from your phone. You realy, realy don't want to be calling her drunk. Oh, and don't post her details here, or try to get revenge. Firstly, you loose whatever moral high ground you had over her in the first place, and possibly the loss of respect from your friends and secondly revenge, once you've taken it just feels kind of hollow.

So yes, though I'm pretty certain you already know all this but probably need some sort of comfirmation that it's the better thing to do, break off contact, don't seek revenge, don't text or call her pissed and also, see how you manage on your own for a bit before getting involved with anyone else. Best advice I can offer. Here's hoping you learn from some of the mistakes I've made.
(Fredz A graveyard of hopes, a dump of ambition, Sat 4 Jul 2009, 12:43, Reply)

p.s.
Sorry, but MTFU
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Sat 4 Jul 2009, 13:20, Reply)

^^
^^ this

Once day it won't matter, take a big old run up, and get the fuck over it
(b3tamax Mate, you're fat and I'll throw you in the river, Sat 4 Jul 2009, 22:29, Reply)

"She has changed rapidly for the worse in the last 2 months..."
Sounds like there's more to it than you and her.
Allow yourself a little room to think there may be something going on with her that has nothing to do with anything else. Something she's finding very difficult.
It's possible to share everything with another and yet still not fully understand.
( thealternativefact, Sat 4 Jul 2009, 18:33, Reply)

Don't post her details
because none of us would have any respect for you.
I never cheated on my husband, but started dating someone a month after we broke up. It happens and it doesn't mean that she is a bad person.
Sure, you're bitter which is ok...you've gone past the heartbroken stage to the angry stage...
Hang in there, because it will get better *hugs*
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Sat 4 Jul 2009, 18:44, Reply)