As the others said.. forgive yourself
The difference between a stalker and what you did, is that you tried to understand (albeit later) how your however-well-meaning activities towards Betty were likely to affect her.

A real (tm) stalker doesn't think about the feelings of the victim of their desires. You were a bit naive when you started and in the attempt to "plead your case" which a bit of the fear into her.

To your credit you admitted to her that you felt awful about what had happened and from what I read non-threateningly apologised for it. What she did with the apology is on her and you can't make people "understand" which you've pretty much discovered.

From the end of the work at the office it seemed like she was less in fear of you so I would say that's probably as good as you're gonna get. Good for you for writing it, shows how a normal person (cept for the B3TA addiction) can seem abnormal depending on how they get viewed.

Thanks for writing.
(Lurkaloid awarded wanking black belt on, Tue 5 Feb 2008, 17:16, Reply)