This post isn't an abhomination
as per your reply to my post down below.

You were raped - no two ways about it - but realistically bringing a case for this now isn't going to do anything.

The thing that strikes me about this is the lack of support from your parents. If any man called my daughter a bitch in front of me, they'd be shown the door with my boot up their arse.

Without going yet again into psychobabble mode, did you / do you feel valued enough by your parents ? A lot of domestic abuse relationships in adults occur because of low self-esteem / self-worth caused by poor parenting. Although again, your parents might have suffered the same at the hands of their parents...so the cycle perpetuates itself.

I'm glad you've found someone else now and are out of the situation, but possibly counselling might be of use at some time.

As for your ex - sounds like karma is already getting him. Try to avoid the temptation to keep up with what's happening in his life, and move on with your own. You sound like a really intelligent young woman (hope that doesn't sound patronising) so your life is going to be way, way better than his.

All the best - but really, think about counselling - don't let this fester inside you for longer than it needs to.
( I_Was_Mordred, Mon 18 May 2009, 13:37, Reply)