Hmm.
This is pretty tough. Have you asked the daughter why she doesn't want her mum (and/or the instructors to know)? Personally, I would encourage her to come clean about the other cadet, but try and find some proof to show that this cadet has been bullying her.

Don't go behind her back or she'll lose her trust in you, but make it clear you think the cadet's behaviour is completely unacceptable and that she should be punished. FFS, if the kid really has hauled off and lamped your friends daughter one for doing well then she sounds like a psycho.

If your friends daughter refuses point blank to do anything, I guess you could always try and get mentalkids details and go and threaten her with a piece of wood. Alright, don't really...but wouldn't it be nice if grownups really could deliver retribution to bullies?

I hope it gets sorted.
(berk, Mon 18 May 2009, 15:35, Reply)