update
Her mum now knows and is quite rightly shocked and furious.
After my last email asking daughter to ring me she told her mum about it.
The other girl left the cadets recently.
It seems the bullying stemmed from jealousy over a boy *sigh*
I havnt spoken to either of them on the phone, dont want to call, will wait to see if either of them do.
So I dont know whats going to happen, but its out in the open now.
(insomniac-surfer oh go on then, just this once, Mon 18 May 2009, 23:22, 1 reply)

TBH
That's all you needed to do. Well done for helping get it out.
(Psyche finishes work at the end of June! Yay!!!, Tue 19 May 2009, 13:36, closed)

It wasnt down to me TBH
As folks said, her emailing me about it was probably a way of getting it out into the open.
I think she must have been ready to talk about it, as she told her mum shortly after I asked her to ring me.
I still havnt spoken to either of them since then so dont know what is happening.
But I'm assuming 'something' is happening.
Is taking a back seat now, they know they can ring me if they need to.
I will probably be as much use a chocolate teapot but I can provide an ear to talk to.
(insomniac-surfer oh go on then, just this once, Wed 20 May 2009, 1:55, closed)

That's a good outcome
but be careful about getting into a dialogue with the daughter about it - you don't want to look like someone who gets close to vulnerable kids.

Sad, I know, but it does happen.
(Juan Quar is clinging to her front teeth on, Wed 20 May 2009, 5:49, closed)