Yes, we've found the problem:
Intelligent - check
Cute - check
A B3TAN - check
Working in a very interesting field - check

Sorry, if this is true, then you have no hope. At least you've found some people you like though, so it could be worse. Unfortunately, the rules of relationships are: compromise, compromise, compromise. *shudders*

Maybe you need to start treating the object of desire like your cats - we tend to expect much less of them.
(stuntsmile, Wed 16 Dec 2009, 4:28, 1 reply)

It is true
I am not holding myself up like some kind of shining example but.
Consider me for a second: -

Intelligent - uncheck
Cute - uncheck
A B3TAN - check
Working in a very interesting field - uncheck
Wake up to lovely man every morning - check

How did I manage it? I wake up every morning look at him and ask myself the same thing. All I can say is I am a lucky bitch. I had been single for a long time before I meet him. Meeting someone is half the battle the other half is keeping them (of course only if you want to keep them) and it is true the rules of relationships are: compromise, compromise, compromise.

My relationship should never have got off the ground as it's like a tail from a women's story book.

We met in a bar he was drunk, I was drunk, he told me I had hypnotic eyes, I told him he was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen. We exchanged phone numbers and email addresses. The next day he left the country for 4 long, long weeks. He rang, emailed and texted me every night. After what seemed like and eternity he came back. Considering we had met once, one drunken exchange, 4 weeks earlier. I cooked him dinner and that was that and I never looked back.

But what keeps us together is compromise, I do our laundry, he cooks us dinner, we go for a walk, and we do things together - go to museums, for walks, listen to the radio. He talks I listen, I talk he listens. I make it sound like we’re an elderly couple, we are not, I am under 30 and he is just past 30.

I am no expert but in my experience finding someone is not about looking. It is not always easy, but it can be done. A few avenues to explore - go out, not to a bar. Go somewhere interesting - if there is University near by many do one off free evening lectures on a given subject. If you don’t meet 'the one' at least you learned something and try a few more, you will meet new people as it is usual that the same people turning up again and again.

Do things that cost nothing - strange as it seems but something that takes a bit of effort attracts nice people. And a common activity means no awkward chat up lines; if you are feeling self conscious, talk about the activity and the other person.

Try and stay away from dating websites - unless they come with gold plated personal recommendation from a very good friend. I have never used one personally but good friends have, they meet lots of people but it is pot luck.

A new year means new beginnings! Best of luck.
(Free pens 100, 101, 102 is still counting on, Wed 16 Dec 2009, 13:10, closed)