Coz I was a bloody idiot
... and in love.
I was only 17 when I met her, first proper g/f and all that.
And, I just couldnt leave. I couldnt bare to see her upset, it made me feel twice as bad. I was so emotionally attached it was untrue. Also there was so many times I felt I had no where to go. Having screwed things up with family and friends. There was a fear element of threats of suicide and self harm.
Essentially, I felt locked in, so was just trying to make the best of the situation. Also I was supporting her with these female relations in order to safely exit this relationship. As I felt just pulling the plug would have been dangerous.

Now ive manned the fuck up, and have a heart of stone. No girl would ever get under me like that again and id never let a situation like that happen again.
(Miggyman, Fri 22 Oct 2010, 10:01, 2 replies)

No need to have a heart of stone.
Don't miss out on someone amazing because of some twat in the past.
Or make someone else suffer because you've been hurt before
(Nanny Pat vote for me, Fri 22 Oct 2010, 10:04, closed)

manning the fuck up
does not mean you emotionally close yourself off to the possibility of having a great relationship with someone else. it means putting your hand up and saying yes i fucked up here but i can learn from that, shit happens and you can move on to have a fulfilling relationships with the rest of the human race.
What you give out you tend to get back and you can learn to trust and recognise when someone is not abusing you or likely to.
(nimrodihnio making gravy for one., Fri 22 Oct 2010, 10:52, closed)

Easier said than done tho.
I totally agree with what you say here. I agree I did fuck up with that one. But I just feel that my own emotions and feelings for this girl was the main factor of keeping me in that disastrous situation. So its now a case of, Dont get into something you cant get out of. Seriously the time i did try to leave her, I felt physically ill. I couldnt eat, couldnt sleep. The stress was unbelievable. I actually imagined her being really upset at the fact I was gone, and the fact that Id caused her more pain. Sounds totally stupid and unbelievable. But I only felt better by going back there.

Trust me, Id love nothing more than to be in a loving relationship again with Miss Right. Those I have had strong feelings for havnt felt the same way. And relationships ive had since usually last about 6 months before it runs dry - for me.
(Miggyman, Fri 22 Oct 2010, 11:18, closed)

What about the girl with the kid?

(Nanny Pat vote for me, Fri 22 Oct 2010, 11:32, closed)

Yeah I loved her..
But I wasnt so emotionally entangled and hooked to her as I was this girl. Ie I was able to leave without spending a week without food or sleep.
(Miggyman, Fri 22 Oct 2010, 11:48, closed)

Judging by his previous performance on QOTW
I'd say she never existed. Well, she probably did exist until someone called him out on his own mistakes. Then it was all a lie, a big fat lie, done purely to expose your own shortcomings and blinkered attitudes! Yes! I win!

Man, maybe it's the booze, but this Miggyman chap really makes me feel an affinity with those folk on /talk.
( Wet-chinned bag shanker Cannot parse Wogan, Fri 22 Oct 2010, 21:25, closed)