having read your post...
I wish you well in the search - you seem like a nice lass and I am sure someone out there would give their left arm to look after you :-)

In the meantime, browse a bit and try a few different types - hell, after I split with my ex I thought I was looking for a tall blonde with blue eyes, but I married a short green-eyed redhead (well it's purple now). Change is a good thing!
(Chad, Mon 15 Sep 2008, 13:32, 1 reply)

Aw thanks
*blushes a bit*

I think you're right about change. I guess the problem is just that I am still in love with ex, and I don't want to be. So as hard as I try to be open minded about potential new mates really I am subconsciously trying to find a substitute to fill the hole he has left in my soul, which just ain't gonna happen and I know it. (I could've made that sound more dirty).

Maybe best leave the whole thing alone until time has healed... In fact, my ex stole my heart when I wasn't expecting it coz I wasn't looking, being finally happy on my own for the first time in my life... I should learn from that.

Anyway what use is a one armed bloke?

edit: prolly very useful actually, I used to know a one armed man and he ran a hardware shop, I am not discriminating against the limbally challenged phew, got out of that one
( warmfuzzies Isn't here, Mon 15 Sep 2008, 14:07, closed)

You're not the only one
I can sympathise. Every time I think I'm getting close to starting to get over my ex, the crashing reality that I haven't begun to move on hits me square in the face. We're still great friends, she's still completely hot, and also she doesn't seem to be able to move on, but we both know that logically a relationship can't work.

Frustration!
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Mon 15 Sep 2008, 14:43, closed)

Snappity snap
You're not my ex are you?

Ah no... me and mine sadly aren't "great friends" any more as he has broken off contact with me as it is too painful, since whenever we see each other we want each other so much it makes us walk funny... Not to mention all the emotional stuff, like the fact that we were going to get married and everything...

Think I might just preface all my posts with a big flashing sign reading EMO ALERT. I'm starting to get on my own nerves with it now.
( warmfuzzies Isn't here, Mon 15 Sep 2008, 14:57, closed)

Scarily
We're exactly the same, my ex and I, including the wedding plans and the walking funny! We haven't broken contact, I tried for a couple of weeks, but it was too hard for both of us.

I'd love to get back together with her, but we split for a reason, one that I know is true, but it doesn't make it any easier to handle.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Mon 15 Sep 2008, 15:03, closed)

Heh
This QOTW does seem to be unleashing a torrent of emo, doesn't it? Ditto for me, though I still think I'm too young to be using dating sites to get over my Goethe period. The social lubricant of being at uni has gone now though, it can't be more than a few years till I give in at get on match.com, considering my complete inability to talk to women I don't know.
(jabboy, Mon 15 Sep 2008, 18:56, closed)

solace seeking
having also read your reply to my post last week, i'm guessing you probably do the same [cringey] thing that i used to do whenever i met anyone i enjoyed spending time with.

i really didn't think i did talk about him all the time, but i suppose anyone you've spent too much time with is bound to come up in little anecdotes etc.

and most guys won't say anything until they have been filed under "good mates".

it's easy to have a reasonably decent profile on a dating site (and not doing any of the things in your other post) - the problem is not backtracking later on.

chin up and hope things work out for you!
( kitsune-tsuki tankeløst hode får lettest sove, Mon 15 Sep 2008, 15:06, closed)

*solidarity hug*
Thank you, and yes... it pains me to admit it, you're right about that... Much as I am conscious of trying not to mention his name every other sentence it does have a tendency to splurge out of my mouth before I can stop it.

Chin up to you too :)

Maybe we should just go to Lebanon.
( warmfuzzies Isn't here, Mon 15 Sep 2008, 16:11, closed)