the singer in my band is my best mate
and has been single for a while and my gf and her female friends try to set him up with people or say "this girl is his type and she wouldn't mind a project"

it pisses me off. why do women feel they have the right to try and make these changes to the way men are?

because they are all manipulative shrews that's why
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 15 Sep 2008, 15:43, 2 replies)

Me? Nooooo
I really don't want to change anyone. I love the fact that the world is full of such diversity.

Merely pointing out how I (and prolly others) react to images which are posted forth into the public domain to, apparently, attract and encourage me/womankind into wanting to spend time with the subjects.

Stay the same wonderful person you undoubtedly are... and accept (as I do since I won't be changing for anyone either) that there will many people who won't be jumping into bed or marriage with you :)
( warmfuzzies Isn't here, Mon 15 Sep 2008, 16:01, closed)

I wasn't implying that you did
and I fully agree with what you've said about the pictures and profiles.

same old story though, people are stupid and therefore get in their own way.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 15 Sep 2008, 16:15, closed)

Ah good.
Was just a teensy bit worried I'd not quite got the hang of this whole "knowing your audience" lark having only just come out of lurking.

Actually I am a shameful people pleaser. Get inexplicably upset if I think I've pissed anyone off, even (or especially) when they are right.
( warmfuzzies Isn't here, Mon 15 Sep 2008, 16:27, closed)

the other thing that gets me...
Is that we are supposed to accept every fault, foible and personality defect that a girl we are set up with has.

Think about it - your friend gets set up with a girl you missus recommends and they will say "well, he's nice, but he watches football, I don't like his clothes, he spends too much time with his mates and I don't like the music he plays. Oh and he needs a better job in order to look after me better."

Now reverse the roles. Your friend gets set up with the same girl and says to your missus, "well she's ok, but she watches utter crap on TV, she's like satan when she's on the blob, she listens to bloody Girls Aloud, she doesn't swallow, won't take it up the dirtbox and last week the silly bitch put the DVDs back in the wrong cases, thus causing me to spend four hours looking for a film because I didn't know which one of the 1000 cases it was in. Oh, and she's put so many soddiing cushions and throws everywhere that there is no room left to sit on the sofa or sleep on the bed. You need to sort her out, or she's out on her arse."

Then stand back and watch the fireworks. I am all for sexual equality, but it cuts both ways, ladies - you can't take it as carte blanche that you can mould us into some metrosexual twat, unless we get to turn you into a dirty slut.... :-)
(Chad, Mon 15 Sep 2008, 16:23, closed)

changing people, or finding them?
I am still indebted to a certain ex-boyfriend who taught me, erm, things.

That sounds so crude and vulgar. No, I'm not a CHW or anything like that. I'm just not lamenting the loss of a naive attitude.
( kitsune-tsuki tankeløst hode får lettest sove, Mon 15 Sep 2008, 16:44, closed)

well done that man!
I applaud his efforts and think I speak for the group when ask: "what talents?"

I think the point is that we have TV shows where a woman takes her husband and gives him to a bunch of gay guys to pretty him up and make him more like her ideal man (gay?). Where is the TV show where a guy gets to take his wife to a bunch of stripppers and they sluttify her for him?

Now, that's a show I'd watch. Along with the out-takes from Supernanny where she beats seven shades of snot out of the little bastards and then recommends the mouth-breathing parents for sterilisation to prevent them breeding further... at times the world makes me an angry, angry man.... heh
(Chad, Mon 15 Sep 2008, 16:53, closed)

Sluttify me
I'd do that show! It's my secret ambition to be a pole dancer.
(Lady of leisure, Mon 15 Sep 2008, 19:20, closed)

I like the way you think
and I would like to subscribe to your newsletter
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 15 Sep 2008, 21:07, closed)