Not "we need to talk" but close.
Long story short - I said "can we talk?" and broke it to her. None of that "it's me not you", just "you're not happy, I'm not happy, let's not be unhappy". She told me to clear off, so I did (to the pub of course). She wanted to talk a few days later, so we did. She took full responsibility for our relationship problems (which is fair, cos she was horrible) and said she wanted to work it out. I said no thanks. She said "I'll walk away now if you don't want to be with me". I said okay, but she just sat back down again. Finally got her to leave by saying I'd think things through and talk to her that night at my house. Nothing changed in my mind, so later I told her the same thing again. She pleaded, cried, sat on my lap and tried to kiss me...in the end I said "right, you're really pissing me off now, please leave". She did, and I went to the pub.

Found out recently that she shagged a friend of mine while we were together. Makes me suspect that she was knocking off a couple more of her "just friend" male friends. This from a girl who freaked out about every female friend of mine (and for the record I never even kissed another girl while we were together).

Even though she clearly couldn't stand being with me (clues: lying, cheating, moving out of my house, blanking me for days on end, slagging off my parents, my brother and my friends to me when they'd been nothing but nice to her), when faced with the prospect of losing me she suddenly made the effort to keep me. The fact that she expected it to work just confirms to me how detached from reality she was.

So yeah. Make of that what you will. I've had a year of sheer happiness since then. Best talk I've ever had to be honest :)
( yes yes yes man oi mate, someone's writtten 'bum' on your neck, Mon 23 Apr 2007, 14:05, Reply)