Hmm impending doom?
Well it seems I have made a hash up of a few things.

Long story short.

4 year relationship, 2 years together at Uni, 2 years she moved 130 miles away and I stayed in Uni town. First did another 1 year degere then a 2 year contract job came up. So 3 years 7 months into the relationship, I moved into a house with 4 others. Things are getting tense between me and the other half anyway but we make it to 4 years almost on the dot seeing each other every second/third weekend.

This other girl starts coming round a lot who is a friend of a housemate. She is round all the time and yes inevitably we get on like a house on fire. Slightly altered sense of morals thanks to the joys of alcohol and one thing leads to another...

So I do the completely dishonourable and ditch the missus of 4 years. For the last 5 months we have still been in touch and I see her quite often but things are strained. She said she still loves me and obviously misses me a lot.

Anyway the new missus is a few years younger (still got the skills to pay the bills, er maybe not) and me trying to justify to myself I had done the right thing only picked the good things about her to compare about the bad things of the ex. Bingo tricked myself into believing it was the right thing. Nice one SJS!

A week in the new one says she's split up with her now ex to be with me, oh fan-fucking-tastic. 2 x 4 year relationships ruined thanks to a few too many beers...

Roll on 4 months later. Ex misses me like crazy and says she thinks it best we don't ever see each other again. Uh-oes... I'd been thinking about her a lot over the last couple weeks and desperately didn't want that. So one thing led to another and cue an evening of at it like rabbits on Saturday just gone.

So what do I do now? I really want to make it work again with the ex and the new lass is also going to be devastated. She lives nearby and will probably key my car or poisin my hamsters or something in revenge.

The grass is always greener syndrome. Well let me tell you now it isn't. If you think you're onto something better actually stop and take stock of what you've got. A cracking lass who is caring, good looking, thoughtful, remembers dates of birthdays of my relatives which I should damn well know by now, cooks well and is 100% (fact) devoted but who lives 130 miles away. It wouldn't have been easier to make my mind up since the current other half is on at me all the time, I get to work and she pops up on msn, I get home she pops up on msn "shall I come round?". Aaaaaargh! No! Give me some space!

So any advice? Honesty the best policy? She can't exaclty be all that mad considering she said she got back with her now ex 3-4 times in their relationship. She seemed happy to play the role of cheating wascally weasel with my now defunct previous relationship but I don't think she is going to take it that well now the tables have just turned against her...

"We need to talk..."
(Stanlington Jobsworthy Smythe Last skived off work on, Mon 23 Apr 2007, 15:58, Reply)