none taken
but 'let's face it' you haven't got even the tiniest fucking clue what you are on about.

This has broken her heart - she was and is desperate to have a child with me (although to be fair I don't know why - I'm a bell-end). She didn't go through with it, despite her mother's lovely offer to bankroll the whole thing so she could keep it, because she knew what it would do to me and my situation.

She really, really wanted it.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Mon 6 Oct 2008, 11:53, 1 reply)

yes, it was
nice that she terminated the baby she so desperately wanted, just so you wouldn't be upset/put out. Come on, can't any of you see the oxymoron in all this. I'm sorry, but i don't see anything nice about the situation at all. Only bleakness and bad decisions.

I never mounted any high horse, and although i am not in your exact situation, i have been involved in something very similar, the reverberations of which are still rumbling today....15 years on.

Terminations = misery and regret
(Cancer Joy was short lived, Mon 6 Oct 2008, 13:41, closed)

'upset/put out'
doesn't cover it at all - I was being physically attacked - at one point with a huge fucking knife. Knowing your keeping a baby will seriously fuck up someone you love and not doing so for that reason, despite your own desires, is an act of enormous selflessness.

*EDIT* I think I need to insert here that I told her that going through with it would ruin my life. She didn't just quietly do this off her own back.
*EDIT pt.2* Figure of speech - I explained what I was going through with violence etc - I didn't just trot out 'ooh it'll ruin my life'. Fair enough for slating me on that.

By the way, with my pedant hat on, I must point out that you also don't seem to know what an oxymoron is.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Mon 6 Oct 2008, 14:07, closed)

hmmm
Somehow i really don't think it would have 'ruined' your life, maybe a bit difficult, but with the addition of your little erratta, the story now reads very differently, and doesn't put you in a favourable light, at all.

Oxymoron - something (as a concept) that is made up of contradictory or incongruous elements.

A)The nicest thing someone's ever done for me
B)A woman had a termination at MY insistence, because it would ruin MY life.

I know fine well the meaning of oxymoron, and I also know the meaning of another word, have you heard of it

Selfish - concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others.

I'm sorry, although i'm no pro-lifer, i can see no 'niceness' in abortions i'm afraid.
(Cancer Joy was short lived, Mon 6 Oct 2008, 14:36, closed)

It's a linguistic term
a figure of speech by which a locution produces an incongruous, seemingly self-contradictory effect, as in “cruel kindness” or “to make haste slowly.”

I didn't tell Maxine I wanted her to terminate, I told her it was her choice and that I'd support it. I certainly didn't insist on it (where you get that from I don't know) - but I also I'm most definitely a villain here, and take your criticism squarely on the chin. It's a great deal less harsh than that which I heap on myself daily, so help yourself...

The fact is I was hospitalised by the mother of my little girl over something a great deal more trivial - she might have fucking killed me over this: so ended/ruined - who knows?
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Mon 6 Oct 2008, 14:57, closed)

I didn't reply
to make myself feel better, or you any worse, honestly. I just thought your story was very sad, in all respects.

Linguistics aside, i hope it works out OK in the end!
(Cancer Joy was short lived, Mon 6 Oct 2008, 15:02, closed)

Thanks for that
I've not made a very good job of explaining what went on here, I'm sorry - one of the side effects of sneakily posting whilst working...

To summarise:

a) Maxine is lovely
b) I'm not
c) Woman 'B' is a fucking homicidal nutjob

But what Maxine did for me is incredible - that was the point I was trying to make and I stand by it 100%.

It's really, really fucking sad. The end.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Mon 6 Oct 2008, 15:20, closed)