catharsis, fuck yeah!
When he was dying, my grandfather made his 2 children promise not to buy his house after his death, as they both wanted it, and he knew what a rift it would cause in the family. My dad complied with his wishes. My aunt moved in with her husband and children a few weeks after he died and made my grandmother feel like a guest in her own home. Now she lives in a small house she hates, and has had her care plan forcibly changed by her daughter, after carefully deciding with my father what would be best for her.
We have not seen my aunt or cousins since 1997, which absolutely breaks my grandmother's heart.

My other grandmother (my mum's mum) spent her childhood looking after her siblings, her early married life looking after her father (who had dementia) and her later life looking after my grandfather (who had very severe MS and couldn't feed himself, go to the toilet himself, get out of bed etc) until his death. Now she lives in a small house that she hates, and has been manipulated by my gambling, drug using cousin into borrowing over £20,000 for him. The policeman who interviewed her said she was the hardest person he has ever interviewed in 20 years. She will not say a word against my cousin, such is her delusion and faith in him. She now has an allowance from my mum every week and is too scared to answer the door or the phone.

Selfishness has broken these 2 women who are too old and too vulnerable to stand up for themselves.
There's no real end to this post. I guess the moral of the story is don't be a cunt to people.
(reducedfatLOLcat, Mon 6 Jun 2011, 17:28, Reply)