The passive-aggressive guilt tripMy mother is an expert in the guilt-trip. Last week she phoned to say "Happy Birthday" and, after a 10 minute conversation, finished with, "Well, I hope you have a nicer time than I did on the day you were born."
She also stated that she was going to kill herself when she reached 65. On Christmas Day morning. Having rung up to see if there was anything she could bring for lunch.
I think it's just a mother thing, but how good are your relatives and friends at the passive-aggessive?
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chthonic, Thu 13 Oct 2005, 9:52)
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I have a cure......for people who do this - respond to PAGT's of the 'so you'd rather...' / 'don't you worry about me' / 'you go right ahead' category with this simple phrase:
'Look, either say what you mean or just keep your fucking mouth shut, you manipulative twat'.
Garnish to taste with something like, '...not got the time, the patience or the fucking waistline to walk on eggshells, got it?'
It works like a charm - a number of girlfriends, boyfriends (variety due to latent homosexuality) and close relatives have gotten the message straight away. Admittedly, one or two of them have, er, re-assessed thier relationship with me as a result, but if they're the type that enjoy turning some poor bugger into a life-size marionette with that shite, then the chances are we're both better off without.
Hmm, I think this one may have touched a nerve with me - ah well, bile can be a good thing as long as you don't have to drink it afterwards :)
(, Thu 13 Oct 2005, 11:37, Reply)
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