The passive-aggressive guilt tripMy mother is an expert in the guilt-trip. Last week she phoned to say "Happy Birthday" and, after a 10 minute conversation, finished with, "Well, I hope you have a nicer time than I did on the day you were born."
She also stated that she was going to kill herself when she reached 65. On Christmas Day morning. Having rung up to see if there was anything she could bring for lunch.
I think it's just a mother thing, but how good are your relatives and friends at the passive-aggessive?
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chthonic, Thu 13 Oct 2005, 9:52)
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Not even agressiveit's more like passive/depressive! She sighs when something makes her a bit upset - it makes me feel really uncomfortable.
When there is an argument between my sister and I, my mum sighs and looks depressed, whilst saying "I wish you wouldn't fight. Dad can't cope with it anymore. He's in a foul mood now. It's down to you two fighting that he had that heart attack..." Et cetera. She also cries sometimes. I have to leave the room!
She also sighs when I need to borrow a bit of money (I don't have a job - not 16 yet!).
Me "It's ok, I won't go to town if you don't have enough - there is plenty to do in my room"
Mum "No, no, I'll get the money out - I know how bored you get in your room" *sigh & depressed look*
Me "Honestly - Don't worry"
Mum "Look, here is all I have - take it and have fun" *sigh*
Arrrgh, guilt trip!
Sometimes she even cries for no apparent reason. I just come downstairs and find she's been crying. I try and stay out of the way of these things -I'm not good with other people's feelings! I end up feeling terrible about it.
(, Wed 19 Oct 2005, 19:55, Reply)
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