I have decided to quit
worrying so much about other people's feelings.

I have had a week of the most undiluted shite ever. I've been dumped (it's a tale in itself, but for another QOTW.... she was a strange one, suffice to say I've been left..... very confused indeed :P), I've been treated like crap by both a family member and a friend, I've discovered that my best friend and former best man at my wedding is going to the wedding of my ex and the guy she ran off with (the only reason he knows her is through me), all the while I've been stressed to the eyeballs trying to finish a project I'm working on for someone (waaay early, to save them any stress), sort out my financial affairs (not done a tax return for a while :P), re-enter my old self employed job and sort out things for my forthcoming college course. All at the same time.

The way I have dealt with all the shit I've had thrown at me is, as usual, smile, say "it's OK, don't worry about it" then go over it and over it and OVER IT in my mind.

Last night, my brain decided it didn't want me doing that any more.

Woke up with crazy tinnitus in my ears, and a massive headache. I lay wondering what was happening for a few seconds until *pop* - massive panic attack.

After I had managed to calm down (again, all by myself, I sound like the fucking Bridget Jones soundtrack here) I lay in bed and had a long look at the things that I have been stressing about.

I have therefore decided to quit worrying about pointless things (at least as much). I've straightened out a fair amount of stuff, I've let a few select hints out that I need to be steered clear of for a few days by certain people, and I've decided to stop getting so down about all the mental wimmin I seem to come into contact with.

My head still feels like it's been rinsed out with drain cleaner and I feel like I've gone 10 rounds with Tyson, but I feel better than I did this time last night :)

*EDIT* - Christ! Apologies for lack of funny and incessant whining.... it wasn't til I re-read it I realised what had come out my fingers.
( baw__bag contains traces of nuts on, Tue 27 May 2008, 20:52, 8 replies)

Seems like it's going around.
In addition to the rant posted below, I also had an unpleasant confrontation with my girlfriend's son on Sunday, and had some very intense discussions with the girlfriend as well. All of these happened at the same time.

Lovely, isn't it?

EDIT: oh yeah, I almost forgot- and on top of it all I went with my son to photograph abandoned houses and went through a swarm of ticks, and ended up pulling off about 20 to 30 of them from my feet and legs. Woo yay and all that shite.
( The Resident Loon Not a demographic. Do not measure., Tue 27 May 2008, 21:00, closed)

not sure if this is allowed on b3ta but...
no compassion by talking heads

In a world
where people have problems
In this world
where decisions are a way of life
Other people's problems they overwhelm my mind
They say compassion is a virtue, but I don't have the time

So many people...have their problems
I'm not interested...in their problems
I guess I've...experienced some problems
But now I've...made some decisions
Takes a lot of time to push away the nonsense
Take my compassion...Push it as far as it goes
My interest level's dropping, my interest level is dropping
I've heard all I want to, I don't want to hear any more

What are you, in love with your problems?
I think you take it...a little too far
It's...not so cool to have so many problems
But don't expect me to explain your indecisions
Go...talk to your analyst, isn't that what they're paid for
You walk, you talk...You still function like you used to
It's not a question...Of your personality or style
Be a little more selfish, it might do you some good

In a world where people have problems
In this world where decisions are a way of life
Other people's problems, they overwhelm my mind
They say compassion is a virtue, but I don't have the time
(Here we go again)
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Tue 27 May 2008, 21:19, closed)

Sometimes
whining helps.

Well done for quiting worrying about other people's feelings.

I believe it was Katherine Hepburn who said that we should always do exactly as we want - that way at least one person is happy.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Tue 27 May 2008, 22:56, closed)

dude
you are doing the right thing.

I've had to deal with a lot of late too; i'm re-taking third year at uni, which almost cost me my relationship, ad trying to sort a lot of personal shit at the same time to try and turn my life around and not repeat the same mistakes; if you are having panic attacks (as I was/am) you have to reassess what you can and cannot worry about, one person can only take so much at any one time.

Learn to prioritize, its not about being a cunt to others, its about not being a cunt to yourself. if you can get perspective on what needs sorting out in your life, you must take the chance, you cannot be pussyfooting around others as your mental health crumbles.

Props to you for making the first steps, don't feel guilty, this is intervention at a personal level and if your body is telling you you need it then take it.


Best of luck in all your endeavors.

x
(Roopy all is not what it seams, Tue 27 May 2008, 23:19, closed)

Don't sweat the petty things...
...and don't pet the sweaty things!
( Fireflier La la la la, not listening on, Wed 28 May 2008, 9:08, closed)

It's all about...
making lists, it may start out as a pad of total scribbled bollox, but try to sort the chaff from the cabage, and you should find that the things that you need to do arent all that much, its just that your brain is mulling over everything all at once and not making any sense of the situation.

So make a list of all the things that are pissing you off and that need resolution and then simply take each thing one at a time... You'll be astonished how trivial so many of the things will become when thought about logically and it will allow you rather rapidly to feel better and more structured...

So lists - the way forward.
(feedingtimeatthezoo day 1 of his bikini diet started, Wed 28 May 2008, 12:29, closed)

@Fireflier
Great response... I'm going to try to remember that one.
( Moey, Wed 28 May 2008, 13:03, closed)

Cheers all :D
I just saw all the replies, just posted and ran yesterday :D

I've already sorted a few things out and arranged myself a little break next weekend so I'm feeling tons better :D

B3ta is turning into my own little therapist :D
( baw__bag contains traces of nuts on, Wed 28 May 2008, 19:44, closed)