From what you said,
what she actually doesn't have a problem with is changing her mind at the last minute when it's not her who has to pay the consequences. You booked and paid for the train/airline tickets, you lost the money. What did she lose?

"Dump her" sounds a lot easier than it is, but I'm afraid based on what you've said about her, it's the only solution. And the pain and anguish for both of you will be over sooner if it happens sooner.
( shinyshinyscalp less a man, more a way of life, Tue 9 Aug 2011, 14:44, 1 reply)

Bizarrely,
she doesn't seem to mind changing her mind at the last minute even if she does have to pay. The concept of booking train tickets a reasonable length of time in advance in order to get a decent price and thus save money, for example, is completely alien to her. Going to Berlin on 25 December? OK, let's get the tickets on the 24th.

Part of the problem is the fact that she has a different notion of the value of money to most of us: both her parents are loaded, and her grandfather was seriously rich, so despite her unspectacular school career and series of very modestly-paying jobs she bought her own flat in cash in her early twenties.
( .Yeti. El amor en los tiempos del cólera, Wed 10 Aug 2011, 8:38, closed)