Those kinds of places are a bad idea
he will either find the money somehow, or not. I will be going regardless, for all he tried to get me to cancel everything and get a refund and come and stay with him for two weeks instead, as he did not like the idea of me going on my own. I fucking paid for it, so I'm going. End of.
(berk, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:17, 2 replies, latest was 12 years ago)

They're not a great idea,
but this is the perfect situation for them. Borrow £200 pay back £260ish next month, rather than fuck you out of the cost of a flight and hotel. He won't be rolling in spending money but it's enough to eat out every so often.
(PsychoChomp, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:20, Reply)

that's what you do if you work in a pie factory in stoke and don't know how money works

( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:35, Reply)

Or you're a tennis coach?

(PsychoChomp, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:35, Reply)

he really does sound fick

( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:37, Reply)

You need to confront him about why he doesn't want to go away with you
Seriously...He doesn't want to go. And I think you ought to find out why.
( Two Hats I saw someone eating M&M's with a spoon, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:44, Reply)

It does strike me as peculiar
how this has suddenly happened with no warning and no way around it. Frankly I think it's so much horseshit. There's always a way around obstacles *if* you want to get around them.
( Kroney, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:47, Reply)

Exactly
If he was really into the idea, going out for dinner wouldn't even enter his mind. Spending money on anything, in fact.
( Two Hats I saw someone eating M&M's with a spoon, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:49, Reply)

This is what I said. Everything's paid for, he turns up.
OK, so he doesn't have any spending money, so it'll be a shoestring trip. It's not like it's going to be hundreds of pounds. If the idea of walking places and not eating out so much puts him off a trip abroad with his girlfriend, then I don't know what.
( Kroney, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:52, Reply)

See? This guy gets it

( Two Hats I saw someone eating M&M's with a spoon, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:53, Reply)

I lied. I fucking *do* know what.

( Kroney, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:56, Reply)

Of course you do

( Two Hats I saw someone eating M&M's with a spoon, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:57, Reply)

It had occurred to me
however you've got to have some basic measure of trust. As he was on about selling not just his every day car but his beloved classic car as well (naturally, meaning that he could never come and visit and I would have to schlep up to his every weekend) I think he's probably serious on this one.
(berk, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:50, Reply)

Unless he's making these gestures because he knows you'd never go for it
Look, I don't know the guy, but people have thought up worse schemes than this to get out of something they didn't want to do. What harm can come from you just asking him? If he gets all defensive and upset, then you'll know.
( Two Hats I saw someone eating M&M's with a spoon, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:52, Reply)

Yeah I know, and as I've said, it does you credit.
But, this is not an insurmountable problem. The actual holiday bit is a non-issue. Regardless of how screwed he is in the months to come, this is all paid for. Why is he screwing you over for however-many hundreds of pounds on wasted tickets when all he has to do is turn up? It doesn't make any sense.

Couple that with the idea that he's said "oh, yeah, I can't come visit anymore, you'll have to do all the travelling now, my similarly impoverished girlfriend who's just spend money on a holiday I'm now refusing to go on".

He's a cunt.
( Kroney, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:54, Reply)