hmm
i stalked a guy at school for a couple of months, followed him everywhere, knew all his classes, and appeared wherever he was, in a slightly creepy way. eventually i asked him out, he said no, and, crushed, I gave up on him. Then he came and asked me to be his date for a dance after all the other girls he was after had said no. As I had/have no self esteem, I thought 'why not?'

We dated for about 9 months.
He then raped me.

I have NEVER stalked anyone since.

sorry for the grimness of this story, I had to get it off my chest somehow.
( ascorbate, Tue 5 Feb 2008, 17:15, 6 replies)

I think most people don't know how to touch this subject
hence the lack of replies.

But, it sounds like the other side to many of the posts on here about being accused of raping someone.

Perhaps getting some professional help would be a good idea, although B3ta is a good place to vent.

Apologies for lack of compassion
( Moonraker isn't the droid you were looking for, Tue 5 Feb 2008, 18:29, closed)

it's ok
i've had a lot of help, and am back to 'normal' as much as i'll ever be - it just wells up occasionally :-)

if this had been 2 years ago, i'd be in front of a train by now though!
( ascorbate, Tue 5 Feb 2008, 19:34, closed)

I agree with
Moonraker -- it's a pretty heavy topic, and not one that many b3tans will come across in real life, hence the lack of replies. I'm glad you're not in front of a train.
(Exiled Youth [witty comment], Wed 6 Feb 2008, 8:13, closed)

Moonraker and Exiled Youth
nice to see a degree compassion from some b3tans, seems to be a rare occurence.

halfman-halfmouse: glad to hear you coped. And I guess b3ta is as good a mechanism to aid with that as any.
(JasperSinister is offering two tickets to the gun show, Wed 6 Feb 2008, 10:49, closed)

Hmm
Thats not nice. Glad it seems to be working out and that you're not under a bus.
( zulu eh?, Wed 6 Feb 2008, 11:53, closed)

please, it's not your apology to make...
for "the grimness of this story". I'm so glad you've had some help already - that's a big step and a brave one, so well done you! Might I be so bold as to suggest the odd top-up therapy over the years? Especially as regards your self esteem honey. Believe in yourself and your human worth as the individual that you are. He was ONE PERSON in your life (I use the term 'person' with distaste). How many other fabulous, kind, warm-hearted people have you met before and since then? People who love, appreciate and respect you unconditionally...
I find this helps me regain perspective whenever I have a head-fuck / flashback. Which I still do, 23 years later - though very occasionally now. I wish you well. In hindsight I would've been better to send you a message rather than reply to your post. If I knew how to cut&paste I would do that (but I'm a techno-Luddite). Also I've written this straight off the heart, so I'd never remember it to write again as it is. Take care xxx
( Tourette's ( . )( . ) has a monkey hair in her fried egg, Wed 6 Feb 2008, 12:49, closed)