Don't usually go for this sort of thing...
... but thought I may share a few experiences.

Nearly 11 years ago, my brother was run over and killed. I know in this sort of situation, you cling on to anything you can to keep your spirits up, but two incidents stay in my mind. Anyone else know about the theory/phenomenon of butterflies appearing at funerals? I hadn't until it happened at my brothers and a family friend excitedly told me about it. There is a school of thought that suggests that the soul (or whatever) is transported away in the form of a butterfly. Nice theory, and a calming one. But even a sceptic like myself was surprised to see a very large Peacock butterfly sitting on the pulpit in the church for the majority of the funeral service. Which was in October (not normally butterfly weather).

Days after the funeral, my father came in and pulled me to one side. Not wanting my mother to hear, he explained to me how he had just seen both my grandfathers - his dad and my mother's dad - whilst he was out driving. Both had been dead for years. Maybe not spooky, but dad didn't know either of the gents (or indeed recognise the cars) who both appeared to nod "hello", and so concluded that my grandfathers were letting dad know that my recently passed brother was ok - where ever he was.

Third incident involves the family pet. My paternal grandmother died on the sea front at west bay (south coast) of a huge heart attack (she was actually laughing at a paraglider whose engine was noisily falling apart when it struck). Old folk die that way all the time I guess, but my parents Labrador wouldn't leave my grandmother's side the whole day before she died.

Not funny, just thought I'd share. I guess these things happen all the time though
(animal252 last activated his kitten hammer on, Thu 3 Jul 2008, 23:20, 2 replies)

Butterflies
Maybe. But actually we have a butterfly in our church most of the time - don't know why, he/she just seems to kinda like it. It's not just a funeral thing.
(ChaRleyTroniC is invincible with his chips and cheese, Thu 3 Jul 2008, 23:53, closed)

Sorry, I neeed some clarification...
it seems like you're saying that your dad didn't know his own father?

And if somehow he didn't, how did he knwo that the 2 gentlemen in question were your grandathers?

Not meaning to doubt, just wanting clarification.

thanks
(misskitty reeks of sex and turpentine; laudanum afternoons, Fri 4 Jul 2008, 6:34, closed)