In keeping with a post below...
on the subject of relationships-

I left a marriage that was full of emotional and verbal abuse, one in which I was being gradually forced into a position that I really didn't want to be in by an increasingly shrill and screeching control freak of a harpy. She fit all of the classic signs of an abuser- how I didn't see this for that many years still mystifies me- and when I was finally separated from her, I knew that I needed to do a lot of self-evaluation and healing.

So what did I do? I found a woman who I could talk to, whose manner fit well with my own, and who I felt comfortable with. I found her within a couple of months of moving out. And do you know why she felt familiar and comfortable? Because I had found my ex-wife in a different body.

You know how some people just keep going from one bad relationship to another? How some women seem to only be attracted to losers? It's because they don't take a good close look at the person they just left, so when they meet another person who drinks a lot, has a loud and flambuoyant lifestyle and won't let anyone push them around, they don't recognize that the new person is just another abusive self-centered asshole like the one they just left.

Even now I still get a chill when I think about just how close I came to falling into that particular trap. *jibblies*

Lesson to be learned: when you get out of a relationship, don't spring immediately into another one. Take some time to really dig inside yourself and figure out not only what they did wrong to you, but what you did wrong to end up in that bad situation. And take the time to figure out what the characteristics of your ex were that should serve as warning signs, so you don't end up just going into an identically bad situation.
( The Resident Loon Not a demographic. Do not measure., Thu 27 Dec 2007, 14:50, 6 replies)

*clicks*
Hear hear!

Although I did get involved with Jess pretty quickly after my marriage ended... she's nothing like my ex though, I'm pleased to say!
(Professor Kenny Martin Hmm? What?, Thu 27 Dec 2007, 14:52, closed)

on the other hand, women
shouldn't think about it at all.

Look, I have needs as well OK?
(apeloverage committed the vile act of onanism on, Thu 27 Dec 2007, 15:07, closed)

People will never change!
Some folk just don't like to be alone and slip into another bad relationship because of it.
( girlinthehole, Thu 27 Dec 2007, 17:00, closed)

True enough...
...but figuring out why the last relationship went bad is a very important thing, I'd say. Then you can learn your lesson and not simply repeat it again.

One definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result every time...
( The Resident Loon Not a demographic. Do not measure., Thu 27 Dec 2007, 17:47, closed)

I've been single for eight years
therefore, my next date will be Bono. Or at least Chris Martin.
(Emily Bruce-Dickinson http://jovialfellow.blogspot.com/, Sun 30 Dec 2007, 7:45, closed)

Totally agree
Although I generally attract some really strange women (present significant other excepted of course)
( snee held his breath since, Thu 3 Jan 2008, 12:05, closed)