If he is unable to find funds I will go on my own
I will NOT be deprived of a holiday.
(berk, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:00, 2 replies, latest was 12 years ago)

I thought you'd already supplied the funds?
Is he seriously goingto waste a paid-faor holiday because it might take him forever to pay you back?
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:01, Reply)

if he does this, he's a twat.
a bigger twat than Labs.
(Poppet some assembly required., Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:02, Reply)

why is labs a twat?
i miss labs
( rachelswipe with a fork, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:15, Reply)

He's not a twat at all, I just like giving him shit.
He loves it.
(Poppet some assembly required., Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:15, Reply)

oh good
i love teh labs
( rachelswipe with a fork, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:20, Reply)

who?

(Quintno EXPERIMENT RUINED CANCELLED, LEFT 4EVER, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:15, Reply)

I have already paid for the flights and hotel
he says he is not coming because he will have no spending money. Unless, of course, I provide that as well but I cannot really afford to - especially since I know full well he will want to take the metro everywhere instead of walking and he will sulk if we don't eat out in the evenings.
(berk, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:11, Reply)

Tell him to go to wonga

(PsychoChomp, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:14, Reply)

Those kinds of places are a bad idea
he will either find the money somehow, or not. I will be going regardless, for all he tried to get me to cancel everything and get a refund and come and stay with him for two weeks instead, as he did not like the idea of me going on my own. I fucking paid for it, so I'm going. End of.
(berk, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:17, Reply)

They're not a great idea,
but this is the perfect situation for them. Borrow £200 pay back £260ish next month, rather than fuck you out of the cost of a flight and hotel. He won't be rolling in spending money but it's enough to eat out every so often.
(PsychoChomp, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:20, Reply)

that's what you do if you work in a pie factory in stoke and don't know how money works

( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:35, Reply)

Or you're a tennis coach?

(PsychoChomp, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:35, Reply)

he really does sound fick

( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:37, Reply)

You need to confront him about why he doesn't want to go away with you
Seriously...He doesn't want to go. And I think you ought to find out why.
( Two Hats I saw someone eating M&M's with a spoon, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:44, Reply)

It does strike me as peculiar
how this has suddenly happened with no warning and no way around it. Frankly I think it's so much horseshit. There's always a way around obstacles *if* you want to get around them.
( Kroney, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:47, Reply)

Exactly
If he was really into the idea, going out for dinner wouldn't even enter his mind. Spending money on anything, in fact.
( Two Hats I saw someone eating M&M's with a spoon, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:49, Reply)

This is what I said. Everything's paid for, he turns up.
OK, so he doesn't have any spending money, so it'll be a shoestring trip. It's not like it's going to be hundreds of pounds. If the idea of walking places and not eating out so much puts him off a trip abroad with his girlfriend, then I don't know what.
( Kroney, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:52, Reply)

See? This guy gets it

( Two Hats I saw someone eating M&M's with a spoon, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:53, Reply)

I lied. I fucking *do* know what.

( Kroney, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:56, Reply)

Of course you do

( Two Hats I saw someone eating M&M's with a spoon, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:57, Reply)

It had occurred to me
however you've got to have some basic measure of trust. As he was on about selling not just his every day car but his beloved classic car as well (naturally, meaning that he could never come and visit and I would have to schlep up to his every weekend) I think he's probably serious on this one.
(berk, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:50, Reply)

Unless he's making these gestures because he knows you'd never go for it
Look, I don't know the guy, but people have thought up worse schemes than this to get out of something they didn't want to do. What harm can come from you just asking him? If he gets all defensive and upset, then you'll know.
( Two Hats I saw someone eating M&M's with a spoon, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:52, Reply)

Yeah I know, and as I've said, it does you credit.
But, this is not an insurmountable problem. The actual holiday bit is a non-issue. Regardless of how screwed he is in the months to come, this is all paid for. Why is he screwing you over for however-many hundreds of pounds on wasted tickets when all he has to do is turn up? It doesn't make any sense.

Couple that with the idea that he's said "oh, yeah, I can't come visit anymore, you'll have to do all the travelling now, my similarly impoverished girlfriend who's just spend money on a holiday I'm now refusing to go on".

He's a cunt.
( Kroney, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:54, Reply)

omg
tell him that you want to date a man, not a manchild, and he either comes on the romantic holiday, or he goes back to bashing his balls alone.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:15, Reply)

No no, too agressive
There might be a deeper issue. Berk doesn't want to frighten this guy off, she clearly cares about him. There may well be a reasonable explanation as to why he doesn't want to go.
( Two Hats I saw someone eating M&M's with a spoon, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:55, Reply)

tell him to fuck off
unless you're an idiot?
(Quintno EXPERIMENT RUINED CANCELLED, LEFT 4EVER, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:16, Reply)

he sounds like an incompetent lifefail

( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:34, Reply)

I am starting to think so.

(berk, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:37, Reply)

It sounds to me like he doesn't really want to go

( Two Hats I saw someone eating M&M's with a spoon, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:40, Reply)

You think he'd pay her back at all?

( Kroney, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:11, Reply)

Good for you.

( Fucking hell Jeff I am not a robot, Wed 22 Aug 2012, 11:02, Reply)