Name Change
Apologies in advance for lack of fuunys.

5 years ago I managed to get married. Yay me! So off I trot to the bank (which is a non royal bank located in Scotland) to change me name. During the course of the conversation to get my name changed I stressed that although I had changed my surname I had kept my title and it was under no circumstances to be changed to Mrs. When I received my new card I would phone up to confirm receipt and my old card would be cancelled and my new one activated. A few days later my new card turns up and of course the title is Mrs. I phone up and receive no apology but advised that as I was married it was assummed that my title was Mrs despite advising several times that it was not. Anyhoo I ordered another card in the correct name and advised that they would keep my old card active and to destroy the incorrect card which I confirmed more than once. Later I go to withdraw cash and my card is spat back at me which I found strange as I knew I had cash. Phoning later I was again not given an apology (noticing a trend here?) and told that they had activated my new (and destroyed card) and no new card had actually been ordered. So off I trot to the bank taking time off work (although I did get the bank to pay for the taxi) to get this sorted. Once again we go through it all, yes I was married, no I was not a Mrs, oh and can I actually have some of my cash please so I can get some high end luxuries like food. So they agree to let me have some cash and order a new card for me. A few days later my new card shows up and there in all its glory again, Mrs. Wearily I trot off to the bank where after again receiving no apology I am told that my title really should be Mrs as I am married. The red mist decended at this point and they were on the other side of a rant that lasted a few minuted with short pauses for breath where I managed to get in various subjects ranging from feminism to the dubious parentage of various members of staff. This time it was sorted.

A couple of months later me and hubby decide to add him onto the account as all the direct debits come out of my account anyway. I advise them I just want him added on to my non fancy very basic bank account and we were advised I would have to open a new one. So we go through it all transferring DD, wages etc to our new account number and then instead of cards a letter drops through telling us they would rather not have my husbands custom. We go down transfer everything back to my single account and told again that they didn't want his custom due to his credit history (which was better than mine) This was on a basic account. Anyway we went with First Direct who not only had both of us but gave us a debit cards, cheques books and an overdraft. When I was asked in my old bank why I was closing my account it was nice to say "actually I wanted to stay with you but it seems you don't want us and several thousand pounds of my money every month so I managed to find a bank that does" and off I went.

I have no problems with first direct and my old bank did send me a very expensive bunch of flowers to apologise for the name mix up
(ladraven, Tue 21 Jul 2009, 7:44, 12 replies)

Without wishing to be rude
Why did you get married, take your husbands name and then not want to be Mrs?

Woman I have known who want to get married, but not wanted to be viewed as their husbands property (as many woman feel that this is what is inferred by taking his name and being know as Mrs) just don't change their names.

I was happy to take my husbands name and be a Mrs. I quite like it, it makes me feel like a grown up!


Indecently, when we got married in Prague we were given the option of not only what surname we wanted (mine, his or double barrelled) but also what name we wanted children to have. We could have said that we wanted the boys to have his name and the girls to have mine.

Also my name isn't the one on my marriage certificate, but the people who did my passport didn't seem to mind.
As I got married in the Czech Republic my name on my marriage certificate follows the local traditon so my name on there is Liveinabinova!
( Mrs Entity is in hiding., Tue 21 Jul 2009, 9:53, closed)

wise up
and be a mrs you old trout
(little lord muthafuckin fauntleroy, Tue 21 Jul 2009, 10:17, closed)

Hang on...
By title, do you mean Dr?

I didn't think that was transferable, like QC?

Hence, Cherie Booth QC
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Tue 21 Jul 2009, 10:45, closed)

My title
My title is Ms for the following reasons I can't double barrel as my first name is already hyphenated and another hyphen would look silly. So I was just going to keep my surname. This upset my husband to be. So I agreed to change to his surname and keep my title as I did not wish to be defined by my marital status. It also is easier having the same surname now we have produced our little crotch fruit
(ladraven, Tue 21 Jul 2009, 13:26, closed)

Really
It's your own fault for being so damn fussy. You honestly think it makes a blind bit of difference to anyone, yourself included, if you're Mrs or Ms?

Your bank should ask for the taxi money back.
(MJPerry was crude but clickable at, Tue 21 Jul 2009, 13:58, closed)

strange logic
in most of the world Ms. indicates a woman who is divorced and there fore a higher risk for credit, leases and contracts.
(bad_advice QOTW survivor from the first trollocost!, Wed 22 Jul 2009, 10:08, closed)

Personally
I'd be more concerned about my wifes motives for wanting to keep a title which suggests she's single than whether or not she took my name.

But maybe that's just me.
(bblgoose, Wed 22 Jul 2009, 9:18, closed)

it's perhaps worth considering your own absence of a name change
Your title doesn't change when getting married. Why should hers?
(syllopsium, Wed 22 Jul 2009, 11:31, closed)

Surnames?
I've always found that a woman changing her surname to match her husbands seems a little like incest.
( Sextant goes to him is emotionally erect, on this day, Thu 23 Jul 2009, 6:04, closed)

You deserved that (except the flowers)
Bloody fussy cow.
( 100% Cock Raw like carrots., Tue 21 Jul 2009, 14:28, closed)

Jesus. What a pain in the arse you are.
And learn about paragraphs too.
(Spaff_Quaffer Wise fwom your gwave., Tue 21 Jul 2009, 15:34, closed)

What a bunch of miserable twunts you are
It her goddamn name, the bank should call her whatever it is she wants to be called.

However, judging by some other posts, it might be worth doing a doctoral degree. Banks seem to be much nicer to Dr's than to regular people (regardless of the kind of doctor you are, be it proper doctor, doctor of letters, medical doctor or something else).
( Sextant goes to him is emotionally erect, on this day, Thu 23 Jul 2009, 6:02, closed)